Being apart doesn't have to put your sex life on pause. The best long distance sex toys let one partner hand control to the other through an app, so touch travels over any internet connection — across town or across an ocean. This guide covers the six app-controlled toys currently in stock at Red Pleasures, with live CAD prices, honest trade-offs, and a plain-English explanation of how the pairing actually works.
In this guide
- Comparison: long-distance sex toys at a glance
- 1. Lovense Lush 3 — best overall
- 2. We-Vibe Sync Lite — budget pick
- 3. We-Vibe Chorus — premium couples pick
- 4. We-Vibe Verge — worn by him
- 5. Lovense Lush Mini — most discreet
- 6. Lovense Solace Pro — for penis-owners
- How do long-distance sex toys work?
- Do both partners need the same app?
- Are app-controlled sex toys safe and hygienic?
- How we chose these picks
- FAQ
Comparison: long-distance sex toys at a glance
| Product | Price (CAD) | Best for | Key spec |
|---|---|---|---|
| Lovense Lush 3 | $175.90 | Best overall | App control with messaging and video chat |
| We-Vibe Sync Lite | $87.20 | Budget pick | Wearable during sex, 10+ modes |
| We-Vibe Chorus | $229.99 | Premium couples pick | Pressure-responsive squeeze remote |
| We-Vibe Verge | $129.99 | Worn by him | Perineum ring, up to 2-hour runtime |
| Lovense Lush Mini | $165.90 | Most discreet | 36 dB minimum, 7-minute fast charge |
| Lovense Solace Pro | $259.00 | For penis-owners | Up to 300 strokes/min, 14-hour battery |
1. Lush 3 App-Controlled Remote Vibrating Egg – Lovense ($175.90 CAD)
The Lush 3 is an insertable body-safe silicone egg with a flexible external tail, a whisper-quiet motor, and magnetic USB charging. It has become the default recommendation for couples apart because the Lovense app bundles everything a remote session needs: real-time control of intensity and patterns, intimate messaging, and video chat, so you aren't juggling a separate call while you play. It suits the couple where one partner wears the toy and the other drives every change from anywhere online. Skip it if insertable toys aren't your thing — a worn toy like the Sync Lite may fit better — and budget for the mid-range price. The partner in control needs nothing but their phone and the free app.
2. We-Vibe Sync Lite Couples Vibrator ($87.20 CAD)
The Sync Lite is the least expensive way into app-controlled play on this list. It's a C-shaped wearable in aqua body-safe silicone (phthalate-, BPA- and latex-free) designed to be worn during penetrative sex, with more than ten vibration modes behind a single button. When you're together it adds hands-free stimulation you both feel; when you're apart, your partner takes over from the We-Vibe app. The honest trade-off is stamina: up to 45 minutes of play on a 90-minute charge, the shortest runtime here. Pick it if you want one affordable toy that serves reunion weekends and the weeks in between; pass if you want marathon sessions or deeper solo-focused stimulation.
3. We-Vibe Chorus Couples Vibrator with Squeeze Remote ($229.99 CAD)
The Chorus is the premium option for partnered play. Its adjustable frame flexes to your body for simultaneous G-spot, clitoral, and penis stimulation during sex, and its signature squeeze remote raises intensity the harder you grip — an intuitive control no app slider matches. Touch-sense sensors add three responsive modes, and the We-Vibe app takes over for long-distance sessions with custom patterns. Two details to know before buying: it carries the highest price of the couples toys here, and while the vibrator itself is IPX7 and fully submersible, the squeeze remote is only IPX4 splashproof, so the remote stays out of the bath. It comes with a two-year warranty.
4. We-Vibe Verge Vibrating Ring ($129.99 CAD)
The Verge flips the usual setup: this one is worn by him. It's a silky silicone vibrating ring that delivers deep, rumbling vibration to the perineum, with sensation both partners can share during sex. Through the We-Vibe app, a remote partner adjusts modes and intensity from any distance, which makes it one of the few long-distance choices where the wearer isn't using an insertable. It's 100% waterproof (IPX7) for shower use and easy cleaning, and a full charge gives up to 2 hours of play — the longest runtime of the wearables in this guide. Not the right pick if you're after pinpoint clitoral stimulation; pair it with a partner's toy instead.
5. Lush Mini App-Controlled Vibrator – Lovense ($165.90 CAD)
The Lush Mini is the pick for thin walls, roommates, and travel. Its minimum sound level is just 36 dB — the quietest figure on this page — and a 7-minute charge buys a full hour of play, so a dead battery never cancels a planned session. The soft silicone body has a 3.79-inch insertable length, gentler in scale than the full-size Lush 3, and the IPX7 rating means it washes safely under running water. Bluetooth links it to your phone; from there a partner can take control from across the room or across the globe. The trade-off is value: it sits only about $10 below the Lush 3, so choose the Mini for discretion and comfort, not to save money.
6. Solace Pro Automatic Thrusting Stroker – Lovense ($259.00 CAD)
The Solace Pro answers the most common gap in long-distance roundups: an option for penis-owners. It's an automatic thrusting stroker with a textured 3D sleeve, a motor that reaches up to 300 strokes per minute, and a 180-degree adjustable mount for hands-free use. A partner can control it remotely through the Lovense app, and AI Sync can match it to on-screen action. Battery life is exceptional at up to 14 hours per charge. Know the limits: at $259.00 it's the biggest investment in this guide, its IPX4 rating means wipe-clean rather than submersible, and its 63 dB maximum makes it the loudest device here — closer to normal conversation than a whisper.
How do long-distance sex toys work?
A long-distance sex toy pairs with its owner's phone over Bluetooth, and the partner's phone connects through the same brand's app over the internet — Wi-Fi or mobile data both work. Once the owner accepts the control invitation, the remote partner adjusts patterns and intensity in real time with no distance limit. In practice a session takes three steps: the wearer pairs the toy with their own app, sends their partner a control link or friend request inside the app, and the partner's screen becomes the remote. Latency over a normal connection is low enough that changes feel immediate, and if the internet drops, the toy simply keeps its last setting until the connection returns — nearby, Bluetooth alone keeps working with no internet at all.
Do both partners need the same app?
Yes — long-distance control runs inside the toy brand's own app, installed on both phones. Lovense toys (Lush 3, Lush Mini, Solace Pro) are controlled through the Lovense app; We-Vibe toys (Sync Lite, Chorus, Verge) through the We-Vibe app. You cannot drive a We-Vibe toy from the Lovense app or vice versa, so if each of you owns a different brand, you'll run each toy in its own app — slightly clumsy, but workable. Couples buying a matched pair should pick one ecosystem first. The Lovense app's built-in messaging and video chat is a genuine advantage for couples who want the whole session in one place; We-Vibe's strength is toys designed to be worn together when you reunite.
Are app-controlled sex toys safe and hygienic?
Yes, when you match the cleaning method to the toy's water rating and treat sharing with the same care as any intimate contact. The Sexual Medicine Society of North America warns that "chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea, and herpes can all be spread through shared sex toys," and recommends cleaning toys after every use and covering a shared toy with a new condom each time. For the toys in this guide: IPX7-rated models (Lush 3, Lush Mini, Verge, and the Chorus vibrator itself) can be washed under running water with mild soap or a dedicated toy cleaner, while IPX4 devices (Solace Pro, and the Chorus squeeze remote) are wipe-clean only — never submerge them. All six picks are made from body-safe materials, led by phthalate-free silicone. Finally, treat the app account like any private account: use a unique password and don't share the login beyond your partner. Our step-by-step toy cleaning guide covers materials and methods in detail.
How we chose these picks
Every toy here had to clear four filters: in stock on our shelves today at the listed price; true internet-range app control, not just a short-range remote (which is why remote-only couples vibrators didn't qualify); body-safe materials; and a spread of prices and body fits so most couples find a match. We also weighed runtime, noise level, and water rating from each product's specifications, and we note where a pick falls short. Three app-controlled models we normally stock — the We-Vibe Melt 2, We-Vibe Pivot, and Lovense Gravity — are out of stock right now, so they aren't recommended on this page.
FAQ
How do long distance sex toys work?
The toy pairs with its owner's phone over Bluetooth, and the partner connects through the same brand's app over the internet. Once linked, the remote partner controls vibration patterns and intensity in real time from anywhere — there's no distance limit as long as both phones are online.
What is the best long-distance sex toy for couples?
For most couples we recommend the Lovense Lush 3 ($175.90 CAD): it's whisper-quiet, made of body-safe silicone, and the Lovense app supports remote control, messaging, and video chat in one place. The We-Vibe Sync Lite ($87.20 CAD) is the best lower-priced alternative.
Do both partners need the same app?
Yes — you both use the app made for the toy's brand. Lovense toys are controlled through the Lovense app and We-Vibe toys through the We-Vibe app. One partner can't control a We-Vibe toy from the Lovense app, so couples mixing brands run each toy in its own app.
Can my partner control the toy from another country?
Yes. App control works over any internet connection, so it makes no difference whether your partner is across town or overseas. Both phones need the brand's app installed, an account, and Wi-Fi or mobile data during the session.
Do long-distance sex toys need Wi-Fi?
Only for remote sessions — Wi-Fi or mobile data both work. In the same room, the toy runs over Bluetooth with no internet at all, which is also the fallback if a connection drops mid-session.
Is there a long-distance sex toy for men?
Yes — the Lovense Solace Pro ($259.00 CAD) is an app-controlled thrusting stroker that a partner can drive remotely. It delivers up to 300 strokes per minute, runs up to 14 hours per charge, and mounts hands-free at any angle up to 180 degrees.
How much do long-distance sex toys cost in Canada?
The in-stock app-controlled toys at Red Pleasures run from $87.20 CAD (We-Vibe Sync Lite) to $259.00 CAD (Lovense Solace Pro), with most insertable and wearable options between $130 and $230 CAD.
How do I clean an app-controlled toy?
Check the water rating first. IPX7 toys like the Lush Mini and Verge can be washed under running water with mild soap or toy cleaner; IPX4 devices like the Solace Pro and the Chorus squeeze remote are wipe-clean only. Clean before and after every use.
Is it safe to share app-controlled toys?
The Sexual Medicine Society of North America cautions that chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea, and herpes can all be spread through shared sex toys. Clean thoroughly between users, and if a toy is shared, cover it with a new condom each time.
Shop the full collection: App-controlled & remote vibrators at Red Pleasures. Every order ships from our Ottawa-based team with discreet shipping across Canada and the USA.
Keep reading: our Lovense Canada guide and We-Vibe Canada guide go deeper on each ecosystem, and our best couples sex toys roundup covers picks for when you're back in the same room.